… who post all their emotions and feelings publicly. I believe a fight should between the people fighting and only the people fighting. It’s completely unnecessary to involve other people. If your goal is to get more people in your side, it’s a lot more dignified to do it without wrecking the reputation of another person. If you were genuinely hurt, then your story stands on its own.
… who don’t own up to their mistakes. if it was a battle of who was more hurt, it’s true that maybe you were more hurt. but no one is blameless in a story. so own up and apologize for your part of the problem. Especially if, in seeking retribution, you caused an even bigger problem.
… who deal in revenge and retaliation. you know what karma is? karma is letting nature take its course. if you inflate the problem, then guess what? you became the karma. so just deal with the problem, wrap it up as neatly as you can and then walk away. eventually, the person who hurt you will get what he/she deserves.
… people who don’t know who to point the blame finger to. if one person caused the problem, that’s just the one person. and if other people don’t know about it but were dragged unwittingly, then they are not the ones you should be angry at. and it’s equally unnecessary to name-call. especially if they were better people than you were being at that moment.
… blaming someone else for becoming the mess you are now. i believe circumstances and situations are one factor that changes you. but i believe that your personality is what inevitably shapes how you respond. and if your response is messed-up, then that’s entirely on you. it’s your burden how you act because in the end, you can’t depend on anyone but yourself. there are forks in every decision; one (or many) roads lead to dignity and class, the other (or many others) lead to becoming an emotional mess. what would you like yourself to choose?
… people who enjoy being a mess. Honey, there’s no way for me to back that up. I believe in being emo, in feeling the feelings right after something horrible has occurred to you. but after, wipe your tears, count to ten and breathe away your anger and calm the heck down. because you shouldn’t make major decisions when you’re mad. you shouldn’t be posting your emotions publicly. think for a minute. think what you wanna do. think what you wanna feel. but after, start the process of moving on. easier said than done, right? but if you believe the impossible, then believe you can do that.
… people who think that walking away is cowardly. if it wasn’t your fight, then you’re doing the right thing walking away. because it wasn’t your fight. and because if you do decide that it’s something to fight about, then you can do it without the universe watching.
… people who bring their fights to the public. don’t drag your personal life into other people’s business. if you want to be a reality star, do it on your own, don’t drag other people down with you. chances are, the more you yell in public and be antagonistic in public, the other person trying to take it outside, is not just trying to protect their reputation, they’re trying to protect yours as well. don’t humiliate yourself that way. be a class act.
… people who try to blackmail other people into staying. especially using precious valuable things as blackmail.
this is a complex thing to understand. but i believe that when you are hurt, you still have a responsibility to the person who hurt you. it is everyone’s responsibility to be the better person. and if you don’t believe in revenge, like I do, then you still bear that responsibility to the person who hurt you to not begin a cycle of hurting. if you fight and continue to fight, keep it between yourselves. each person involved has other people backing them up. and all of them will feel the pain for their person. so keep the hurt to yourself. be the better person.
With muay scratched out in the 2011 Southeast Asian Games, the Philippine team will be preparing instead for the more prestigious World Muay Thai Championship in Tashkent, Uzbekistan.
Eight veteran muay fighters, six in the men’s division and two in the distaff side, have been chosen to regain the country’s rich tradition in the weeklong event on September 20 to 27.
World silver medalist Jay Harold Gregorio and 2009 Southeast Asian Games gold medalist Zaidi Laruan will lead the team to the world championship.
Joining Gregorio and Laruan are Jonathan Polosan, Benedict Alumno, Ryan Jakieri and Robin Catalan in the men’s division. May Libao and Preciosa Ocaya are the female fighters.
Brent Velasco won the gold in 2002 and 2004 while Roland Claro duplicated the feat in 2004 and 2008.
National coach Billy Alumno said the team will train for three months in Bangkok from July to September to prepare for the tournament.
“Sayang walang muay sa SEA Games, mas marami sana ang chance na makapag-uwi ng mas marami pang medalya,” said Alumno. – Reuben Terrado, JVP, GMA News